Tuesday, August 28, 2007

If only getting the "green light" to travel was the only thing on my mind...

I am actually breathing a sigh of relief these days when it comes to some of the ancillary issues related to bringing home a baby. Like most other working parents, child care is an issue that has weighed heavily on me. And being me, I have avoided the issue for a long time, opting instead to deal with other important things, like choosing bedding and choosing names :)! I don't want to jinx it, but this week I found some really viable options to choose from once the baby is home. My 1st choice is a woman from my neighborhood who will come take care of the baby in my house. She is the mother of a woman my sister works with, she lives around the corner from me, and is reasonably priced.. Even better: though she has recently dropped down to part-time hours with her last little charge (he's going to pre-school), she is not going to look another job right now and will be available in January (when I think I will need her). A few weeks ago, I had also talked with a woman who runs a babysitting service out of her home. She came highly recommended by a parent in my sister's school (it's a good resource-- all those kids and parents running around!).. And this past weekend, I went to visit a daycare center down the street.. It wouldn't be my first choice, but I am definitely comfortable with it as an option, particularly for when the baby is a little older. So, the research continues, but I feel better knowing I already have some options.
I also selected the adoption specialist that I will consult with from Kaz.. Her name is Dr. Gail Farber, and she and her team are affiliated with the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia. In addition to Dr. Farber, there is another pediatrician on staff as well as two occupational therapists. Prior to travel, I will have a phone consultation with them so they can advise me on what questions to ask and what to look for when I meet the children. I will also be emailing them photos and video, along with copies of the baby's medical records from Kaz for their evaluation. We will consult again via telephone while I am in Kaz about what they find in those records and pictures.. The goal, of course, is try to determine if the baby is healthy or, if he/she is not, the extent & implications of any health problems. There is the potential that the information could make my decision harder, but hopefully it will make it easier.

4 comments:

Deborah Taub said...

Child care is such a difficult decision. You want someone who will treat Niamh or Daniel like you would. I have seen people who really struggled with child care. You are taking your time, asking good questions and getting recommendations. It is an exciting thing to consider Niamh or Daniel coming home to be with you finally, but the minute details associated with it are never ending. However, if anyone can handle the details it is you!

On another note, I have a few books on developmental milestones and some basic play-based assessments you can do with infants--if you are interested I can see if they are in VA with me and bring them when I come visit. Maybe you don't want to bring the books with you but they could be another resource in addition to the OT and DR you have lined up.

Should we get you a nanny cam for your shower?

Amber said...

I've worked in day care and if you can find a home situation for him/her instead, it's sooo much better. Just a thought.

Sonya said...

Hi Jeannine. I too have been putting off the childcare thing for probably too long. My next door neighbor has an in-home daycare and she is awesome, but she will most likely not have an opening for me. But still...I keep hoping.

Another option is a former coworker who is going to try staying home with her son. She is considering keeping my child for me, and she too would be great. I truly hope that one of these options will work out. I really want to try and avoid traditional day care.

Sonya

Tam said...

Hi Jeannine,
I really enjoyed finding your blog today (thanks for posting to mine! I only check it sporadically).

We are also using Dr. Farber's program with our adoption, and we are also preparing to find in-home childcare. Congratulations on your prospective nanny!!!

If you don't mind me asking, are you in the Philly area? If so, maybe our babies can play together when the time comes. Best wishes! -Tam (tamdvm@yahoo.com)